Every relationship thrives when healthy boundaries are in place, these boundaries are extremely important not just for your relationship but for your mental health too. Boundaries are good things; they are not meant to restrict but rather free you from any hit that your mental health may take in the future. The question probably running through your mind is; what are healthy and unhealthy boundaries? Healthy boundaries entail telling your partner what you want and need in your relationship and respecting their wants and needs. 

One common healthy boundary in relationships is ‘saying no!’ the fact that you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you shouldn’t respect your partner when they don’t want something at a particular moment, rather than forcing your needs, withdraw and accept that is what they want right then. This preserves your mental health and that of your partner more than you know. Now, unhealthy boundaries involve doing things without consent, feeling overly responsible for the happiness or feelings of others, disrespecting people’s values and the likes. 

Healthy Boundaries In Relationships Can Look Like:

  • Trusting your own decisions, judgments, and feelings
  • Understanding that you’re not responsible for your partner’s happiness
  • Feeling comfortable asking for your needs and wants

 

Unhealthy boundaries are a lack of boundaries overall. Your sanity, peace, and overall mental health should be your priority in any relationship, ask yourself questions like; what’s too much? How do you want your partner to be around you? What’s important to you? These boundaries can be emotional or physical, you have to set the ones that work for you, one that is not influenced by the needs of someone else. 

Unhealthy Boundaries In Relationships Can Look Like:

  • Sharing too much information too fast
  • Difficulty saying no to your partner
  • Allowing your partner to tell you how you feel and think

 

Healthy Relationships and your mental health 

A healthy relationship affects every aspect of your health because you are happy, happiness is a thousand steps away from anxiety, worries, fear, and resentment which are all the things that characterize a person in an unhealthy relationship. All abuse and unsolicited touches in failed relationships are a result of unhealthy boundaries, not knowing when to stop. Self-love is putting yourself first and making sure that your partner understands that. How can you maintain a healthy relationship that is not detrimental to your mental health? By setting healthy boundaries. You can set healthy boundaries by communicating, explain to your partner what you want and why it’s important to you. Boundaries can be set at any point in a relationship, it depends on what you want at the moment and what matters to you. 

You can start loving yourself by setting healthy boundaries in your relationship and embracing your mental health. To reiterate, the state of your relationship plays a mighty role in determining the state of your mental health, prioritize your mental health by setting healthy boundaries, it’s all interdependent.